Ways to control your anger

Based on the article which was about the father who killed his wife after finding out that his wife had bludgeoned their three children to death, it was clearly that the man lost his temper and hit his wife in a fit of rage which ended up killing her.

Controlling your anger is a very important thing to do. It is essential because you won't know what you might end up doing when you are angry. There are many steps on how you can control your anger.

Firstly is by talking to someone. If you've got a close friend - maybe a person who has known you for years - or even someone in your family, talk things out with them. How you play this depends on you but often the simple act of talking about your feelings helps diffuse them. Oftentimes it doesn't matter if the person you're talking to says little if anything.

Secondly, write about it. If talking to someone is too much for you or if your anger fits have got so bad that no-one will talk to you any more, then write it down. Write or type away without editing what you write. Just write constantly for between 5 and 15 minutes. This kind of "brain dump" lets your subconscious out into the open and you may be surprised at some of the things you write. There's no need to show anyone else what you've written so feel free to vent your anger on the paper or keyboard.

Thirdly, get some exercise. Anything from a brisk walk to a workout in the gym. Exercise releases "feel good" substances in our body called endorphins, so chances are that this will help you feel better. If you haven't got a gym membership and the weather doesn't lend itself to going outside, you can improvise a punch bag by using a pillow. Ideally not a feather pillow just in case you break through the casing - clearing up all those feathers won't help your anger.

FEATURE WEEK 5

Man jailed for murdering wife who killed kids

A contractor was jailed for 12 years for killing his wife after finding out that she had bludgeoned their three children to death. Mohd Zahari Embong, 40, was initially charged with murdering his wife and their three children at their house in Taman Kota Masai four years ago.

On March 11, 2006, Mohd Zahari lost his temper and beat his wife in a fit of rage after he came home from work and found that she had bludgeoned to death their three children Muhammad Zamrie, 6, Muhammad Zairie, 2, and Intan Zaharah, 1, with a metal object.

Mohd Zahari’s lawyer G. Subramaniam Nair, in mitigation told the court that his client did not have any previous criminal record and was remorseful.




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Afternoon school blaze destroys 10 classrooms

Fire swept through SKJ(T) Kulai Besar here destroying at least 10 classrooms. The fire, believed to have started in one of the classrooms, spread through three single-storey wooden blocks of the school during the 5pm incident on Saturday.

The fire also damaged the school’s living skills, sports, counselling and special students rooms.It is learnt that the security guard spotted smoke billowing from one of the rooms before alerting the Fire and Rescue Department.It is learnt that the school, which is more than 60 years old, has about 1,258 students. There are a total of 10 blocks.

Fire operation commander Masnon Idris said two fire engines, including one from a fire volunteer group, were sent as soon as the department received a call at 5.07pm.

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Pudu jail wall torn down

Demolition work on part of the Pudu Jail wall finally began Monday night when an excavator started tearing down the ancient structure here in Kuala Lumpur.

The tearing down of the wall began from inside the prison area at about 10.20pm and onlookers who had gathered started taking photographs to capture the historic moment.

The prison stopped operating in 1996 when the building could no longer cater to the high volume of up to 6,550 people at a time since 1985 and prisoners were subsequently shifted to the Sungai Buloh Prison, 36km from here.

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Lorry driver gets 12 years jail for raping a minor

A 27-year-old lorry driver was sentenced to 12 years in jail and four strokes of the rotan at the High Court here after he was found guilty of raping a minor six years ago.

Norirwanshah Mat Noor, who is married with one child, raped a school dropout who was then 14, at a public toilet in Taman Tasik Shah Alam on Dec 30, 2004 at about 6am.

The group then headed a nearby park where Norirwanshah, who is known to the victim, and his friend approached her.The men told the victim that her father had sent them to take her home.However, they took her to the toilet and raped her there.

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Nigerian ‘love’ syndicate busted

Love makes you do crazy things. 73-year-old woman was swindled of RM155,000 in an Internet love-scam by a Nigerian syndicate which has been busted by police.

The syndicate was busted last Friday when police arrested 11 Nigerian men and three local women in raids on two houses in Seberang Prai and Butterworth after a month of surveillance.

The suspects are aged between 25 and 38 and some of the Nigerians are enrolled as students in a public university, a private institute and a private college in Penang.



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Till death do us apart

Based on the article on the 'Couple of 66 years die three hours', it is clearly known that Ho and his wife had a very good married life. They started of with love at first sight and that love carried them along for 66 years. In a marriage, efforts have to be made to maintain and strengthen the relationship between husband and wife, just like a seedling needs to be watered for it to blossom.

They are few ways to maintain a good marriage life. Firstly is by sharing. To maintain a good marriage relationship requires a lot of sharing. A load shared is a load halved. Vice-versa, happiness shared is happiness doubled! For example, if you can get your other half to do household chores together, both of you would be surprised that it could become time well-spent together, gaining a better knowledge of the habits, as well as the likes and dislikes of your spouse. If your spouse received a piece of good news and shared it with you, it would be most appropriate for you to express your happiness for him/her with a simple hug or a kiss! With a little effort to celebrate in the form of a meal or a small gift, your relationship would be greatly improved.

Secondly, is by quality communication. Quality communication comes about with patience, a listening ear and a sympathetic heart. I do understand that sometimes it is not easy to be patient with one another, especially after a hard day at work! Especially if there are also small kids around the house. However, remember the time when both of you were just getting to know each other? The efforts made then to try to present a good image in front of each other, and the willingness to listen so as to know each other better should also be practiced within a marriage. Try seeing things from his/her perspective, and you would realize that it is not hard to understand the behavior of your spouse.

The third way is by respecting each other. Everyone likes to be respected. Respect your spouse and you will be treated the same by your spouse. If you are married, there must be a couple of things about him/her that have made you agreed to the marriage in the first place. Do not be negative about things he/she likes just because it is not to your preference. Constant arguing will only worsen a marriage relationship. Try to find a mutual ground for compromise. Sometimes it helps to take a step back and look at things from a different angle.

Marriage is not the end, but the beginning of a long path of finding out more about your spouse, and learning to compromise and live with your differences in life. It is also about going through the ups and downs of life, as well as maturing together with your loved ones. Learn to appreciate the plain presence of your other half, and marriage life might not be as bad as you deem it to be.

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